Disrupting Patriarchy: Getting back to balance

 

The Libra New Moon is typically a sweet time for connecting with others in ways that are loving, peaceful and harmonious. But this is not a typical Libra New Moon, and the revolutionary times we live in call for some serious shaking up of the status quo. While the Sun, Moon, and Venus in Libra speak gently and ask, “Can’t everyone just get along?” Uranus and Eris in Aries shout from across the zodiac, “Wake up! There are some huge elephants in the room that must be confronted!”

I’m not saying that you can’t have loving, peaceful, and harmonious relationships during this new lunar cycle. I am saying that if you’ve been sweeping things under the rug or zipping your lips, now is the time to have the courage to confront what’s out of balance. It’s time to work through conflict to arrive at true peace, rather than trying to prop up a pretty-looking illusion of peace. It’s impossible to have true and lasting peace if there is an imbalance of power, if boundaries are being invaded, if justice has not been served, or if needs are disrespected. Lady Justice stands poised to take action with a balance (Libra) in one hand and a sword and lightning bolt (Aries and Uranus) in the other.

One of the biggest elephants in our collective living room is the deeply entrenched system of patriarchy. It’s impossible to have true and lasting peace within a system that puts power primarily in the hands of men (mostly white, heterosexual, Christian men). It would be just as impossible to have true and lasting peace if all the power were in the hands of women. This truth should be self-evident:  All men and women and non-binary identified people are created equal. But that truth has been trampled upon for thousands of years under patriarchy’s heavy boots.

The elephant of patriarchy does not represent every man. Not all men abuse power. Most of the men I know personally respect women’s equality and the civil rights of all people. But the system of patriarchy has left deep imprints and wounds in the psyches of people of all genders. Those who are privileged with power and resources often do not feel the pain of the imbalance, but patriarchy has harmed everyone, not just women. Those who lack the privilege of power and resources feel the imbalance most intensely so they are the ones who feel the greatest need to speak up and take action to bring things back into balance.

The recent news stories about the intimidating, abusive, and sexually predatory behavior of Harvey Weinstein seems to have cracked something open. This is not just a story about the abuse of power by Harvey Weinstein, or Bill Cosby, or Bill O’Reilly, or Donald Trump, or Roger Ailes. This is a story about the big fat patriarchy elephant that’s been in the room for a very long time. Knowing the astrology that’s affecting us, I believe this won’t be just one more time when men in power are exposed only to have the issue just slip quietly back underground. Something is cracking open. That’s what Uranus does…it sends a lightning bolt that cracks things apart. It catalyzes a breakdown so we can have a collective breakthrough.

What’s breaking through is our need to reintegrate the Divine Feminine into our lives. For many men, being cut off from the Divine Feminine has disconnected them from their own hearts, their intuition, their vulnerability, and their ability to give and receive nurturance. In the realm of sexuality, many men suffer from an intense longing for the sensuality, beauty, and sexual power of the Divine Feminine which they believe exists only, and forever, outside of themselves. Women then become sexualized objects to be captured, possessed, and put on display.

Reclaiming the Divine Feminine is just as important for women. The Divine Feminine is not only gentle, compassionate, and nurturing, She is also bursting with creative power, ready to birth a new way of living on this planet. She expresses a sweet love with the unconditional heart of the Divine Mother and a fierce love with the courageous heart of a lioness. She is rising up, now, as Eris in Aries. She says, “The reign of patriarchy must end, for the benefit of all beings”. She says, “Abuse of power, in sexual ways and all ways, must stop! Now!”

Rise up, my sisters, rise up! Speak out, my brothers, speak out!

Let’s bring things into true balance and create lasting peace and harmony in all our relations.


Lunar Eclipse & Grand Cross: Rocking the Boat

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Row, row, row your boat gently down the stream…merrily, merrily…Whoops!

The currents are pretty strong, these days, and your boat may be getting rocked…or maybe it’s time for you to rock the boat. A lunar eclipse, with Moon in Libra and Sun in Aries, unfolds in the wee hours of the morning on April 15.  A few days later, there’s a cardinal Grand Cross (Uranus in Aries opposite Mars in Libra and Pluto in Capricorn opposite Jupiter in Cancer).  This is not the time to hold on to the status quo, especially if these Grand Cross planets are connecting with significant points in your chart.*  These powerful energies present an opportunity to take action, and create a whole new level of harmony. Let’s explore what rocking the boat can do for you:

Rocking the Self

  • Have you been playing small?  You may feel stirred up, because you need to claim your power, take a bold action, or step into a leadership role.
  • Is there something about yourself you just can’t run away from anymore?  Be courageous in facing your shadow.
  • Your True Self is way more than your personality. Inquire into your deepest nature. Explore the question, “What am I?”

Rocking Your Relationships

  • Speak your truth about what you need. If that brings up conflict, be willing to communicate and find a “win-win” resolution.
  • Have you been letting someone take advantage of you, disrespect you, or bully you?  It’s time to say, “No more!”
  • Is the form of your relationship no longer serving your mutual growth?  It’s possible to change the form and keep the love.

Rocking the World

  • Sustainable peace can only be built on a foundation of fairness and equal sharing of power.  Stand up for what is just.
  • If the world is rocking around you, whether it’s earth changes or political upheaval, you can still keep your inner peace.

In each of these scenarios, there are actions you can take, or changes you can make, that can lead to greater harmony.  When we make changes that bring us more in line with ourselves, we create more harmony within. When we stand up for ourselves, even if it brings up conflict, it ultimately makes our relationships more balanced. And when we work for justice, and respond to chaos from a place of inner peace, we create more harmony in the world.  So go ahead, rock the boat, baby!

 

*At the time of the eclipse, the Moon will be at 25 degrees Libra and the Sun at 25 degrees Aries.  The Grand Cross involves planets at 13 degrees of the Cardinal signs (Aries, Cancer, Libra, and Capricorn).  If you have placements in your natal chart between 8 and 30 degrees, in any of the cardinal signs, you are significantly influenced by the current astrology.  You may find it helpful to have an astrology consultation to clarify what actions you can take that will create more harmony in your life.